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The Troubles Mature Bodied Teenage Girls Face

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Everything female, every act of a female, every female relation has been sexualized. But there's one sexualization that doesn't get enough spotlight; the growing bodies of pubescent and teenage girls. Andha vedhana irke, andha vedhana! (The torture... that torture!) Oh, the shame and confusion, unspeakable. The damage, irreversible! I've experienced it first-hand.  That was me during menarche when I was 11 years old. As you can see, my body was mature for my age - because of that, I was mercilessly sexualized ever since I started growing breasts. A molester squeezed my sprouting breasts when I was 10. I had gone into the school toilet alone to change into sports attire. A heavily bearded stranger who hung about tailed me into the bathroom... that's another story for another day. It didn't help that I was a leggy lass. My mom and me - I was 11. Everywhere I went - to school, to the library, even at home, I was troubled by men and boys alike. Truly, I don't know h...
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I Didn't Enjoy Dragon: Here's Why

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It'd be weird to hear that I watched Dragon in tears. But that's the truth.  Let's explore the injustices and hypocrisies that I couldn't stand in this movie, one that everyone is praising. My mom was like, "Adhepdi ivanuku poiyi ivlo azhagana ponnunga kidaikuthu?" (How come a lowlife like him gets the "most beautiful" ladies? The only constant in Dragon's life is "pretty girls." I am following conventional beauty standards and age old Tamil cinema pairing of men who are "not good-looking" with "good-looking" women. He got and wanted only the "hottest" women when he was studious, useless brat, successful cheater, and a human with bare minimum qualities.  What's so great about realizing one's mistakes, coming clean, and not ruining another person's life? It's the bare minimum! Basic quality! Why do we keep glorifying men who only pass the bare minimum? Women have to turn men around for the be...
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Living Out of the Box as a Woman of Indian Origin

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Personally, I've deviated far from the socially accepted life for an Indian woman. Here's my story. I hope it will inspire that life isn't a set template, it's all about breaking barriers. I Fell Gravely Ill when I was Writing My Pre-University Exams and Couldn’t Go to University.     The onset of my rare genetic disease happened during my pre-university days - I was 19 years old.  At that time, no one could determine what was wrong with me. I was admitted to the hospital and wrote  my exams there. I was in a lot of pain. My hands shook and I had difficulty writing but I pushed through anyway, in tears. I got sicker because of misdiagnosis.   Since my disease is rare, doctors misdiagnosed it many times. So, I got worse and worse – critical time was wasted. After correct diagnosis, I had severe allergy reactions to the medicine. Throughout the ordeal, I had to make great effort even to swallow. My tremors were so violent, it shook the wheelchair when I sat in it....
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Vijay's Women's Day Message: Insincere. Ignorant. Unhelpful.

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Vijay's rhetoric for Women's Day: I am so flattered coz Thalapathy considers me as his mother, sister, friend, aunty, and onnu veetu chiththi (distant aunty).  Waiting for Vijay and men to respect me and women because we are their fellow human beings. Not because we are their mothers, sisters, or aunties. In case Vijay na haven't heard, Tamilnadu men already sexualized sisters (akka). And mothers (MILF) and aunts (Aunty Veriyan). So, yeah, his "consideration of women as his mother and sister and friend (girl bestie = friends with benefits)" only evokes a weird feeling for us women. Nothing will change for Tamilnadu women da. DMK can't bring change. TVK can't bring change in 2026. Mudiyathu da. (It's impossible.) Because all of them got the fundamentals wrong - especially Thalapathy.  "We're following Periyar's ideology for women!" ~ Thalapathy Vijay's claim. If that old man was around, he'd chase all of you with his walking st...
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