Kannammaa Writes

Call me ableist and insensitive - but I will say what I have to say about the sexism affecting only Indian disabled women. I had a disabled female relative and a disabled female doctor (both with Indian roots and affected by childhood polio). They were used liberally as inspiration porn as they were successful in a world built for able bodied people. However, marriage and romantic relationships eluded them - the words from my female relative rings sonorously in my conscience: "They think disabled people should be grateful they’re allowed to exist – romantic relationships, intimacy, marriage are excess. To some extent, disabled men have more chances to find a life partner than disabled women in our patriarchal society. Patriarchy renders women like me unmarriageable.  In the past, during the penn paarkum vaibavam (bride seeing ceremony), right... They will ask the bride they came to see to walk, sing, ask her questions, and make her serve coffee and tidbits. This was to check if th...

Disclaimer:  I am only expressing my thoughts on this blog. I am neither imposing anyone to follow my atheism nor ordering anyone to stop believing in whatever they want to believe. You don't have any right to invalidate my thoughts and impose your religiosity on me in the name of commenting. There are thousands of religious faith belief based blogs - go and croak there. When faced with the unknown and hence petrifying situations, it is humans’ nature to reason them with their own understanding. That is how religions, rituals, superstition, metaphysics all came to manifest among us. That is how reincarnation and karma concepts came about as well. It’s perfectly fine to cling to such concepts when we don’t know better. But to continue to reason in such ways when science offers answers and solutions is not wise. I have a rare genetic disease known as Wilson’s Disease (WD). It’s a copper metabolism disease where I suffer from trace mineral copper toxicity. I can’t flush out th...