Kannammaa Writes

  Sharing Information about My Disability Isn't Seeking Pity I'm seeing a lot of people accusing me of "pity-farming" using my disability on social media. I knew this would happen. That's why I hid myself (and my jarring disability) for 10 years since I started the Karuththu Kannammaa page - only my schoolmate, who was the co-founder of the page and KK admins from India knew. I only came out with my disability in 2025 - 10 years after I started KK in 2015. 10 freaking years coz I knew that people, especially men, will use my disability to cloud my credibility.  I went from:  "Oh, she's a woman. She's using woman card and victim card." To: "Oh, she's disabled. She's seeking pity and sympathy." And since I am in my 40s, that too is used against me. Everything and anything that I'm powerless to change is used to discredit me. These people never actually debate me on what I said. You know what? My whole life, even when I was wal...

My Abortion Story This is not the story of the abortion I had - this is a story about women thinking ahead about a child's future and quality of life. I was conceived when my mom was 30, and my dad, 50. Immediately, my mom didn't want this pregnancy because: My dad will retire in 7 years. My mom doesn't have a job with consistent salary. Her concerns: Who will educate this ball of cells if it's born? We don't even have our own house. There are already 6 children in the house who'll need higher education and funds for marriage. The household is already hostile - and this unborn's stepmother hates them already. Mulling over all these, my mom decided to have an abortion - and she asked my dad, who was a physician's assistant. And like all these dumb pro-lifers, he wouldn't hear any of it. He didn't care that he didn't have the resources to raise another child. He didn't care that his advanced age would impact his sperm quality - hence me. My...

  I was 18 when the movie Citizen released in 2001. Ever since, I am obsessed with Nagma's character in the movie: CBI Senior Officer Sarojini Harichandran who leads the investigation involving a vigilante named Citizen, played by Ajith Kumar. Everyone tried to diminish Nagma's acting as the lead CBI Officer. They were saying that her voice is too guttural. Her widened eyes and snarly way of speaking didn't sit well with many. People were complaining that she over-acted in this role. They preferred her roles in Kadhalan, Love Birds, Pistha, Mettukudi - typical. The way Sarojini leads her team to get to the bottom of the case involving Citizen and a lost hamlet called Atthipatti is nothing short of inspiring. Seeing a woman with intelligence and able to put two and two together feel refreshing in a world fixated with women's body parts. Sarojini's passion and vigor to uncover the mystery surrounding a lost village prove that women aren't only intelligent - but al...

Michael Jackson respected women. He didn’t treat women as conquests. And this is important to emphasize because Michael Jackson absolutely could have treated women like collectibles if he wanted to — especially in his 20s. Women of all races — white, Black, brown, beige — were obsessed with him.  He was beautiful, charming, soft-spoken yet electric. Men wanted to be him. Women wanted to touch him, date him, marry him. There has honestly never been another male celebrity with that level of universal desirability and hysteria. But Michael wasn’t chasing women like trophies. He was looking for love. Real love. A stable relationship with a woman he could trust and feel safe with emotionally — something he sadly never fully got. And despite the heartbreaks in his life, he didn’t become bitter. He didn’t start preaching that women are evil manipulators. He didn’t become entitled. He remained shy, awkward, romantic, and deeply respectful around women. Compare that to the podcast bros of t...