Kannammaa Writes

  Shriya Saran gets a lot of flak for the public display of affection (PDA) with her husband. But it delights journalists and camerapersons with XY chromosomes, as they keep demanding for more - coz it sells. The paradox is truly maddening. There was an incident of PDA in my family - that's what I'd like to share. My cousin fell in love with our youngest maternal uncle's wife's brother. He was madly in love with her too. Enter the veena pona mundam aka elder family members, tradition, murai, and dumb, primitive shit in between their love. These elders forbade the duo from proceeding with the relationship, what more marriage - because the murai for each of them is "sister-brother." I witnessed all the drama every time I went to the village for school holidays. My cousin's lover starved himself in rebelling the acute opposition while my cousin cried and threw things around - she was also beaten by her parents. It was very disturbing and as a 14 year old, I w

I mean, isn't it obvious? Why would she marry anyone from the bunch that named her "Kaama Maha Rani" (Queen of Lust)? Because all they can see is her cleavage and navel. "I'm a trained Kathak dancer." Nope.   "I can do Rajasthani folk dance too." Nope.   "I incorporated social issues in my dance routines. " Nope. I have a degree in English literature." Nope.   "I am experimenting with character roles." Nope. "I  gave a lecture to students at the Indian Institutes of Technology (IIT) Madras on the history of films, and films as a medium of cultural exchange." Nope.  "I opened a spa to employ visually impaired masseurs." Nope.   Comes in a photoshoot with a hint of cleavage." Aah, yes, once a KMR, always a KMR. Lol, how in the world would any sensible, dignified woman marry anyone from this cesspool of prurient pricks with sex on their minds 24/7? This group of humans have genitals rising for AI

An actress spoke to me about the casting couch culture in Kollywood.  She checked the Karuththu Kannammaa page and saw the comments shaming actresses as "pacha thevidiyas" with no regard for people's opinions and will sleep with anyone to get ahead in their career. The following isn't a tearful rant from a victim. It's a fiery opposition and equalizing things between men and women by someone affected by a shady, clandestine system that exonerates the men who created, develop, and use the system and getting no blame for it. The actress calls those producers, directors, cameramen "systemic thevidiya junnis." I think it's apt AF.  "If you won't question and shame those men who perpetuate this organized system, you have no right to question the actresses who go along with the system. Yes, I wasn't forced but why do they put such a deal when the business is to be fair, open, and transparent with a single-pronged focus on acting talent and n

You can't say that Indian parents by default, "only want the best for their children." And you know, go on to malign those adult children who don't care for their "old parents who sacrificed so much for them." We don't know what does an adult child who doesn't care about their parents carry in their hearts. And Indian parents aren't exactly angels - for many of them, what society says, status, caste pride, their own ego, and vainglorious quests are more important than their children's happiness. Because these children are victims of their parents who claim, "I only want the best for my children."  "I want the best for my children," is an Indian parent trap. More Indian couples broke up because of their parents, "who want the best for them," than their own perceived incompatibility. First these parents say shit like, "I brought you up for all these years. Don't I know what's best for you?" Then t

  Have you people watched Anbudan, starring Arun Vijay and Ramba? It was released in the year 2000. So, the hero (Sathya) gets acquainted with a girl named Thilothy whom he only speaks to on the phone and through letters. He had never seen the girl, but she had seen him. He falls in love with her and begs to see her and she agrees. She tells him that she will be on a bus, and he must find her among the girls seated on the bus. Sathya would approach only the fairest and “beautiful” girls in the bus, asking each one if she’s Thilothy – to no avail. Convinced that Thilothy is not on the bus, he leaves in disappointment. Thilothy then writes a letter to Sathya, saying, “You asked only the girls you found beautiful – fair skinned with good physique and features if they are Thilothy. You didn’t even glance at the dark-skinned, frail looking girl who was expecting you to come and ask, “Are you Thilothy?” At the end of the day, only looks matter, right? I am writing to you to say that

  Alaipayuthey has a set of it's own problems like: Shakti (Shalini) is the one who's cooking after duty and all. Of course I missed all of it as a kid like I missed the fact about how Sethu (Vivek) is a green flag and Karthik (Madhavan) is THE red flag.  Back in the days, I thought Karthik was a dream. Although I didn't like boys stalking me in the name of romantic interest, I wasn't agitated by Karthik's behavior. All my classmates swooned over him anyway, and as a kid, the one thing you don't want is to be different. So, I went with the flow. Sethu? He was just there for comedy/character artist.  Disclaimer: I am not supporting the practice of marriages within family - don't do that. While Karthik stalks Shakti (Shakti low-key likes the stalking), as soon as Sethu learns that Shakti is disinterested in marrying him, he respectfully moves away and doesn't bring it up again. When his mother talks about making Shakti her daughter-in-law, Sethu tells her