Kandukondain Kandukondain: A Lesson Learned in Time

 


Kandukondain Kandukondain released in 2000. At that time, many didn't like Meenakshi (Aishwarya Rai) falling in love and marrying Major Bala (Mammooty) because:

  • He's much older
  • He's lame
  • He doesn't match Meenakshi's "beauty"

Till today, many of us focus on looks and couples' "physical match. But 26 years ago, Kandukondain Kandukondain taught us all about what really matters.

Meenakshi's character transformation is impactful:

From a dreamy girl wrapped in her fantasy of "Prince Charming"

To a woman who is able to see how true love doesn't come in a poetic package but real care

However, women usually love men despite men's looks. Men's priority when choosing a partner remains women's looks.
I'd like to stress that if Bala was a woman (lame, much older) and Meenakshi, a man ("handsome", blue-eyed angel) - the pair is still good.

It takes time to break all these confining rules that define couples. But it's critical.
  • A couple where the woman is disabled, and the man, able-bodied - good
  • A couple where the woman is darker - good
  • A couple where the guy is bald - good
  • A couple where the guy is shorter - good

And the best part? None of Meenakshi's family members judge her choice.
In our society, parental approval of the choice of a life partner is mandatory - and that needs to change. 

Parents don't know best. We have our freedom to choose our life partners.

Our parents do not have the right to decide if our choice of life partner is suitable based on:
  • Looks
  • Caste
  • Religion
  • Status
  • Wealth
  • Background
  • Health
  • Disability
  • Race
Let us all cultivate the maturity Meenakshi shows in Kandukondain Kandukondain when choosing a life partner.




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