90s Tamil Movies Roast ft Priyamanavale

 Priyamanavale is one of the Tamil movies I watched as a child. Of course, back then, I was influenced by it and carried the movie's message within me - many still do, unlike me because there's something called growing up and changing.

Now, let me dissect the problematic areas in this landmark scene from Priyamanavale.

1. One year agreement marriage

It does sound uncultured. But it's not entirely wrong because marriage per se is a legal agreement between two individuals. There is no guarantee that it will last for a lifetime. Above all, Vijay says that in that one year, if they both like each other, develop an understanding, and feel to spend a lifetime together, they will follow it through. And it does so happen that Vijay and Priya develop feelings for each other, except that Vijay realizes it a wee bit late - after sending Priya off. And Priya unnecessarily torments him instead of acknowledging her love for him.

2. The sanctity of marriage and thali, big-scale weddings, and a woman must stay married with her husband even if he's One Piece of 💩

It's about time we drop the idea that marriage is a holy bond. It's manmade culture and can be altered per human needs. Yeah, the respect for the thali vanishes when the husband takes it off during intimate moments. I believe that the couple getting married should pay for their wedding, not their parents, or brother, especially women's. Get married only after you can afford a wedding. While it's your choice to throw a posh wedding overflowing with Cristal champagne for the whole town, it's unwise and imprudent. Invest in your marriage, not your wedding. Finally, if your partner is abusive and toxic, leave him/her. 

3. Being married multiple times isn't wrong

Demonizing western culture doesn't make Indian culture great. Why should anyone be in an unhappy, loveless marriage, brown, black, yellow, or white person? Why should we worry about what others think and say - they're unhelpful anyway. It's only wrong to cheat your spouse, not divorcing them.

4. Life is a journey, not transactions at every turn - Indian culture disagrees

Here a woman agrees to marry because she needs money to help her siblings, including to pay her sister's dowry. Men in India ask for dowry so they can marry their sisters off with the wealth their wives bring. I mean what the hell is this? When are we going to live our lives. IDK, US return Vijay doesn't see these FUBAR within the "great Indian culture?" He's hellbent to criticize western culture he grew up in while sanitizing Indian culture.

The most important takeaway from this scene is a man respecting women's consent and not thinking women as objects - western culture teaches this, not Indian culture.

Women too, can get men with a small smile. But if women say this, they're slut-shamed or men are shamed as simps.