Decoding Indian Men's Bloodlust and Obsession with the Hymen

 

 

Firstly, if someone who proposed to you or your prospective groom/bride asks you if you have sexual experience before marriage, don’t answer that question, and don’t accept that person for relationship/marriage.

Because whatever you did before marriage is your personal thing. If someone is fixated on that, it only means they’re fixated on your past and will base your marriage’s present and future based on that past like this psychopath here.

If you’re a “virgin” and expect a “virgin wife,” then, you should work to stop all men from gaining premarital sexual experience. If that’s meddling with their freedom and is impossible to do, then accept the reality that even if you decided to “save yourself” for your wife, you cannot expect everyone to do the same. Lives differ and if you can’t accept that, save other’s lives by being a “virgin” and single for life.

This obsession with “deflowering, not deploration,” first night, and blood… Do you know that bleeding during sex causes pain? Such pain is called dyspareunia. 

This guy never loved his wife in the first place. If he did, he would be concerned if sex was hurting her. He’ll be considerate and ask her how she feels every step of the way. There’d be communication. There’d be no rushing to get it done and bloodlust.

When amply aroused, the hymen stretches allowing the penis to penetrate without damage. There are sex workers with their hymens intact. And the hymens can gradually disintegrate due to vigorous physical activities. Some women are born without hymens. And then there are elastic hymens that are way more stretchable than normal hymens. Let that sink in. Did she bleed when she was with her boyfriend? Did he ask her? She might have or didn’t. What is his point?

Only the man’s fantasies and expectations matter. It doesn’t help that women are advised to not upset their husbands when sent into the wedding night room.

Bleeding during sex can occur for many reasons, including:

• Having rough intercourse
• Having a well-endowed partner
• Benign anatomic differences in the vagina, cervix or uterus
• Sexually transmitted infections
• Bacterial infection (bacterial vaginosis or yeast infection)
• Having intercourse for the first time
• Insufficient arousal or not using enough lubricant

Yes, bleeding during sex isn’t limited to first vaginal sex experience.

Bleeding during or after sex is also more likely if the sex is rough and/or penetration is very deep, not only hitting the cervix once but over and over again.

Dr. Moritz also adds that younger people tend to have more sensitive cervixes that can bleed easily from something like rough sex or even a procedure like a Pap smear or pelvic exam.

 

This is one of the most selfish, self-absorbed Indian man I’ve ever seen. He won’t divorce coz then he must pay alimony. But he wants to avenge her. What if the guy's wife didn’t bleed because her hymen stretched? Or because she wasn’t born with a hymen? Or because her hymen disintegrated because she did cartwheels and climbed trees? One can never know why a woman doesn’t bleed or bleeds during first-time intercourse or the 100th time. This is science. 

Who knows if she got scared when this inconsiderate asshole cross-questioned her and cited that she was in a relationship due to pressure? Nothing is certain. Neither does he want to investigate. 

She could’ve easily used a fake hymen and this dumb nut would never know.   

This girl made a poor choice in husband selection. What is the use of him being a “virgin” when he thinks he gets to allow his wife to work or go outside, being a chauvinist? The lack of sexual experience doesn’t make anyone a good person. Men have abused, demeaned, and killed women because they didn’t get sex from the ladies. Does the law exonerate them because they’re not sexually experienced, hence good?

Technically, she didn’t cheat on him for him to cheat on her with multiple hookups. Non-disclosure about one’s past is a prerogative. 

By hooking up, he’ll make more women “cheat” on their future husbands/current husbands by gaining sexual experience with him. Isn’t this treachery to other men? You won’t marry a woman fucked by others but it’s okay for you to fuck women others will marry?

Why do men want a “virgin” wife? What is the point? Is it okay if she kissed a few guys and had make out sessions before marriage? Because the benchmark men set is the hymen and blood during first intercourse. Isn’t it stupid? How would you men know if fake hymen is used? What if is she got a hymenoplasty done? How would you know?

Apparently, sexual harassment experience doesn’t count as body count – only consensual sexual experience counts. Isn’t this such a shameful thing to say? These men easily move on upon hearing sexual assault experiences, saying that doesn’t count. It’s like sexual assaults are nothing to be ashamed of in this society, deserving no redress. But consensual sexual experience is ignominious, and women who engage in it are “used goods, second-hand, vandi, wh0res, and what not. These days, they are calling men with consensual sex experience “rusted rods.”

It's fair enough that she divorces her husband, rejects alimony, starts her life over, and remarries a man who loves her for who she is, unbothered by her past.