Kannammaa Writes

  🚨 Me: Men need to cultivate self-control. What a woman wears isn't an invitation for assault.  🚨 Men: If men start building self-control, women will start roaming nude. Isn't this a blatant acceptance that r@pe is based on control, not lust and men's natural hormones?  A man was explaining why men must not build "too much control" to me .  As if s*xual vi0lence is some sort of necessary leash to keep women in check. Let that sink in. He wasn’t exposing women. He was confessing how men control women through the fear of violence. That one sentence carried a systemic mindset : - That women’s freedom is dangerous - That men’s violence is justified as gatekeeper against women's choices  - That fear is an acceptable method of social order This is not new. It’s ancient. This is what rape culture looks like when it takes off its polite mask and speaks honestly. 🟥 The Logic of a Threat Disguised as Morality 🔴 “If men control themselves, women wi...

Choosing to Be a Tradwife: Feminist Choice or Risk Disguised? Being a tradwife is a choice — but it’s not necessarily a good one. Women who choose to be financially dependent on their husbands and marry rich men are often labelled: 💰 Gold diggers 😒 Lazy 💤 Unambitious Society and men leverage the feminist movement to mock them — and yet paradoxically demand they stay in traditional roles . Men romanticize submissive wives but ridicule them the moment alimony enters the conversation. The contradictions are loud, cruel, and constant. ⚖️ Feminism Is Not Anti-Tradwife — It’s Pro-Truth Feminism doesn’t shame women who are housewives. 🟣 It questions the patriarchal nature of that role. 🟣 It highlights the risks of financial dependence in a still unequal world. That’s not superiority — it’s truth. Yes, women have more choices than ever before — and that’s real progress. But when some women say things like: "I want to go back to a time when women stayed at home and be go...

  🎬 Minnale – A Love Story or a Red Flag Compilation? Once hailed as a benchmark for Tamil romance, Minnale (2001) swept many of us off our feet — especially as teens. I was one of them. But watching (or listening to) it now as an adult with lived experience and clearer eyes? We have to reexamine. Here's Minnale from an adult woman's lens. Who's the adult woman? Vera yaaru? Naan than. (Who else? It's me.) 💖 Teen Me: “Aww, I want a Rajesh!” As a teen, I thought Rajesh’s (Madhavan) wooing style was sweet and endearing . He felt more emotional, more invested than other hero archetypes of the early 2000s. The thunderstorm scene, the longing, the music — it all clicked. 🧠 Adult Me: “Wait, this is manipulation.” Revisited it while working one day and... I cringed . Hard. Underneath the catchy songs and feel-good moments is a story riddled with 🚩 red flags . 🌩️ “My Kind of Girl” – Based on Looks and Lightning “He sees her playing with kids in the rain and deci...

  This woman, 20 years old Maniishapriet Kaur Akhara was found unalived in a student hostel in Cyberjaya, Malaysia. Fake news began circulating that she was r@ped before being unalived—and social media influencers are speaking against the people alleging her SA. All is good until they bring the late Maniishapriet’s honor as the reason for not spreading the subterfuge of her r@pe. The honor equation cuts through race and religion—I see the Muslim Malays say it. And of course, Malaysian Indians. Honor doesn’t reside in men’s and women’s bodies—it resides in our character. When a r@pist r@pes someone, he/she is the one who loses their honor, not the survivor/victim. The Malaysian Indians speaking in Tamil are insensitive in using the language describing SA in this case. In unison, they say, “Karpu alippu = karpalippu,”—which literally means “destruction of virginity.” “Manisha ve karpalikala. Konnutanga, avalo tha.” Seriously? This is how you dignify the poor woman—by lite...

Dear Indian Women, You Can't Get Away With Murder 🛑 Women. Murder is NOT Empowerment. It's Incarceration. Lately, news stories have been pouring in — Indian women killing men who are their husbands/son. Reasons? 🔹 Woman was addicted to drugs and was cheating 🔹 Woman was in love with someone else and eliminated her arranged-marriage spouse 🔹 A mother killed her son for discovering her affair Let’s get real now... 💔 Marriage problems ≠ License to kill If you’re in a loveless, forced, or broken marriage — or if you've fallen in love with someone else — divorce is the way out. Yes, society will judge ; some guy will say that divorce favors women because you dressed up like going to a party or laughed with abandon. Men will cry "alimony" without proper research or reason. Parents will create a scene ; they will interfere and arbitrate because their "honor and authority" are at stake.   Everyone will judge your every move ; when your grown so...

  Context: Counter to the woman who represents women in apologising to men for being beasts of patriarchal burden, carrying the weight of male gender roles. I was a leggy lass, and my brother was a few centimeters shorter than I was. My height made him insecure. When I wore heels, he won't stand beside me. I asked him, "Ithellam oru matter ah" and he was like it's his "maana prachna." Seriously, I am apologising to men for this now? My cousin, who was my peer and I were competing with each other in public exams. He was told that it'd be a shame if he scores less than me because he is a boy and I am a girl. Seriously, I am apologising for that now?  When I was travelling in a town bus after collecting my SPM exam results, a bunch of boys were mocking me that I would have scored less than them. They took a look at my mark sheet and blood drained from their faces. Then they told me that it's no use scoring such high marks anyway - I will get married, ha...

In today’s world, more women than ever are claiming their space as professionals, creators, leaders, and changemakers. But even as feminism rises, one question keeps surfacing: Can a woman be both feminist and religious? The short answer? Not without a fight. Because religion, in most forms, has not empowered women; it has historically restricted them . Women have had to push back hard against religious institutions, teachings, and expectations to win even basic rights. Which raises a deeper truth: Feminism and women’s rights have manifested despite religion, not because of it. 🔥 Why It Feels Like an Impossible Mix Many feminists today feel that the most effective way to fight for gender equality is outside of religion-some even say you must be an atheist to be fully free. And it’s easy to see why: Most major religions limit women’s leadership. Sacred texts have been interpreted for centuries through a male-dominated lens. Traditions often justify inequality as divine will. So when ...

For generations, women have been told that they are “impure” while menstruating. That they should stay away from temples, shrines, and sacred rituals. That their natural biological function somehow offends the divine. But let’s be clear: When a woman visits a temple during her period, she is not conforming to religion—she is pushing back against it.  I went to the Thaipusam festival when I was menstruating. To do it, I had to overcome all kinds of religious caveats: The Kavadi bearer/self-whipping devotees will flog me. Murugan will stab me with his vel. I will fail in my exams. I will be reborn as a female dog in my next life. Still, I went. When I went to the temple, I was defying religion. I was rebelling against religious control. Effectively, I was behaving like I don't believe in God and its punitive powers. So is every woman who goes to the temple during periods. 🩸 This Is Not About Cleanliness—It’s About Control And You Rebelled Against The Control Menstrual taboos in reli...

Meet the Johnny Bravo of Indian cinema. In the movie Doctor, SK's mother says, "If she's beautiful, she'd have no brains at all." Although unsavory, based on Real Madhavan's definition of integrity referencing Rajesh's character in Minnale begs the validity of this statement. Madhavan recently said that his character not kissing Reema Sen's character in Minnale is a display of integrity - apparently, he didn't take advantage of her. This definition of "integrity" is incorrect and harmful, especially given how Rajesh behaves in the rest of the movie. Let's see how. 1. Rajesh stalks Reena (Reema Sen). Is this integrity? Definitely not. But stalking is so normalized in Indian movies, it's seen as romantic. What's romantic and full of integrity is a consensual kiss, not this type of creepy behavior. 2. Rajesh does take advantage of Reena - her situation. If Rajesh was a man of integrity, he wouldn't have taken advantage of the...