Dear Men, Women Are Sorry

 

Context: Counter to the woman who represents women in apologising to men for being beasts of patriarchal burden, carrying the weight of male gender roles.

I was a leggy lass, and my brother was a few centimeters shorter than I was. My height made him insecure. When I wore heels, he won't stand beside me. I asked him, "Ithellam oru matter ah" and he was like it's his "maana prachna." Seriously, I am apologising to men for this now?

My cousin, who was my peer and I were competing with each other in public exams. He was told that it'd be a shame if he scores less than me because he is a boy and I am a girl. Seriously, I am apologising for that now? 

When I was travelling in a town bus after collecting my SPM exam results, a bunch of boys were mocking me that I would have scored less than them. They took a look at my mark sheet and blood drained from their faces. Then they told me that it's no use scoring such high marks anyway - I will get married, have children and be a housewife anyway because I am a girl. 

And we women are apologising for this? 

I told my partner that he needn't do a job he doesn't like and that I will help him set up a business. He accepted my offer. He didn't feel emasculated by accepting my assistance.

We need to cultivate men like my partner, not apologise to men who are soaked in patriarchy, superiority complex, and insecurity..

WE NEED TO NURTURE MEN WHO ARE PEOPLE.

Dear Men, Women Are Not Sorry Because What You Created Came Back To Bite Your A$$ - Rather, We Want You To Help Us Dismantle What's Hurting All Of Us.