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  💔 The Silent Suffering: Marital Rape and Cruelty in Indian Matrimony 🕯️ Ritanya’s Story: A Life Silenced by Brutality Ritanya’s tragic death is a haunting reminder of the violence that can exist behind closed doors. Her parents revealed that  marital rape and dowry harassment  were the primary causes of her suffering and eventual death.   “He tied her hands, silenced her voice, and used cruel objects on her body,” they said, describing her husband Kavin’s behavior as brutal and inhumane. Ritanya confided in someone close: “I feel like my life is leaving me… I fainted… my eyes felt like they were popping out… I can’t bear the pain.” She pleaded with her husband: “I am your wife… can’t you be loving towards me? I will gradually be like you prefer… why are you doing all these other things?” Her words echo the desperation of countless women who suffer in silence. 🚶‍♀️ Hobbling Home: The Aftermath of Violence When Ritanya returned to her parents’ home, her face ...

Time for Men to Get Equal to Women: Potta Getthu💗 For too long, society has excused bad behavior—especially from men—with lines like: “She was dressed like that, what do you expect?” “He just lost control.” Let’s be clear: Self-control, respect, and emotional maturity aren’t optional—they’re essential. Women are taught these values from a young age while men are raised with entitlement, often told the world owes them everything; so they can be reckless. Sure, not every woman always gets it right—but that doesn’t erase the fact that women are emotionally better equipped than men. Now it’s time men caught up. Here Are Key Values Men Must Learn From Women 👩‍🏫 💪 1. Self-Control: Stop Blaming Outfits and Situations Self-control is the ability to choose your actions—regardless of external factors. No one’s clothing, behavior, or words “provoke” violence or harassment. 🍇 Consent is not optional. Respect is not negotiable. ⏳ 2. Patience: Learn to Pause Before You React Pat...

  💪 Women Should Earn — Not Just for Currency, But for Confidence There’s nothing that gives us more security than the money we earn — no matter how little. Father’s money? ❌ Husband’s money? ❌ Son’s money? ❌ Own money? ✅ 👰 Ridhanya’s Story — A Reflection of Many Ridhanya was married off to a rich man because her parents believed she would “live well.” But did she even survive? When she went back to her parents after suffering abuse, they sent her right back — telling her to adjust and endure . Helpless. Abandoned. Despondent. Indian society was poised to judge her if she walked out. 🎓 Education Isn’t the Problem — Lack of Courage Is Here’s the truth: Ridhanya was educated . She could’ve found a job and rebuilt her life. But the problem here isn’t education or lack of opportunities for Indian women. The real problem? The absence of courage — even with education and opportunities. ⚠️ Society’s Dangerous Standards for Women Indian society still glorifies timid, meek...

To Marry a Rich Man or be Financially Independent, then Find Love? Ridhanya's arranged marriage to a rich man and subsequent death due to dowry harassment has sparked a debate: Marrying a rich man is a FEMINIST CHOICE. Being financially independent and then finding love is a FEMINIST CHOICE. All I can see here is PATRIARCHY REPACKAGED as CHOICE FEMINISM. Nevertheless, choice feminism stands. I chose financial independence and eventual love. If love dries up, I rather continue working my job than pursue a contentious alimony legal battle. I will lose it anyway as I have been earning for years and I am proud of it - I would never hide it to win alimony.  Only my own finances will help me in any situation - sickness, domestic abuse, family needs, niceties, healthy food, supplements, accessible home, and old age care - not a rich husband, not children. Like I won't depend and burden my brother as an adult woman, I won't do the same to another man. I could've run to find a r...

  Independence Despite Disability ♿✨ Redefining What It Means to Be Independent I was a fiercely independent teenager—not only was I not sheltered, but I also hated the idea of others doing things for me. If anything, I was the one people relied on. 🏍️ I ran errands on my motorcycle, paid bills, and tutored my neighbors’ kids in English. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 I accompanied my parents to hospital appointments—while managing my own. 🎉 I took my nieces and nephews to school events and birthday outings. 🐶 I looked after my pet dog, Mylo, and extended my help to family, friends, and neighbors every chance I got. All this—while quietly battling the early symptoms of an unknown, foreign disease hidden deep within my DNA. The Silent Struggle Within 💢 At first, it was subtle but relentless: Unexplained body pain Fatigue Migraines Soon, the symptoms became impossible to ignore. My body began to betray me—walking and writing grew difficult. Violent tremors shook my hands. My j...

🧠 Alimony, Patriarchy & Gender Roles: The Reality Many Ignore 📌 Alimony Exists Because of Patriarchy—Not Feminism In the wake of Ridhanya's death due to dowry abuse, Indian men are bringing up alimony, faulting women for marrying up. I'd like to shatter their argument. These Indian men wrongly believe that alimony exists to "favour women." In truth, alimony is a product of deeply-rooted patriarchy itself. Here’s how ⬇️ 👩 Traditional gender roles in India expect women to: Sacrifice education and careers after marriage Manage the household Raise children—often without pay or recognition 👨 Meanwhile, men are seen as breadwinners : Expected to work, earn, and financially support the family Socially conditioned to equate manhood with wealth and power 💡 This setup creates dependence: Many women end up financially vulnerable after marriage because society never allowed them to build careers or savings. Thus, when a marriage fails,...

  💰 Dowry vs. Alimony in India: Why the Comparison is Misleading—and Dangerous In recent times, a vocal section of Indian men have started comparing alimony to dowry , calling the a “modern scam” where women take what men once did . The argument? That alimony is dowry in reverse . A Man's Rights' Activist's Comment About Ridhanya's Dowry Death But is this just frustration—or is it a deliberate, dangerous misdirection? Let’s break this down. 📌 What’s the Difference Between Dowry and Alimony? 🏷️ Dowry : 💍 Given before or during marriage 🧳 Assets transferred from the bride’s family to the groom’s family 🚫 Illegal under the Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961 🧨 Rooted in patriarchy , often leading to abuse and violence against women 💸 Men and their families are the beneficiaries ⚖️ Alimony : 🔚 Given after divorce 👩‍⚖️ Court-ordered support to the financially weaker spouse (often the wife) ✅ Legal , governed by Indian personal laws and Cr...

Enough of the Crocodile Tears...🐊 Enough of the Hypocrisy...😪 By now, you all would’ve heard about Ridhanya’s s*icide over dowry abuse. 💔 And people are saying, “A divorced daughter is better than a dead daughter.” Indian men are clamoring for justice, slapping hashtags like #JusticeForRidhanya. 🙄 I don’t buy that one bit. Not too long ago, there was an episode on Tamizha Tamizha about divorce. It was gut-wrenching. 💢 The very same men who tore into divorced women on that show—questioning their morals, shaming their choices—are now preaching justice? They’re everywhere. And don’t think women are absent in this cruelty—they’re in the front rows too. 😤 If Ridhanya had divorced, you think this society would’ve let her live in peace? She would’ve been called “vaala vetti” 🗣️ If she dated someone, she'd be labeled shameless 💔 If she dressed up, she’d be scrutinized 🧐 If she chose to live independently, she'd be called every name in the book 🏠💔 If she dared to ...