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🧠 Alimony, Patriarchy & Gender Roles: The Reality Many Ignore 📌 Alimony Exists Because of Patriarchy—Not Feminism In the wake of Ridhanya's death due to dowry abuse, Indian men are bringing up alimony, faulting women for marrying up. I'd like to shatter their argument. These Indian men wrongly believe that alimony exists to "favour women." In truth, alimony is a product of deeply-rooted patriarchy itself. Here’s how ⬇️ 👩 Traditional gender roles in India expect women to: Sacrifice education and careers after marriage Manage the household Raise children—often without pay or recognition 👨 Meanwhile, men are seen as breadwinners : Expected to work, earn, and financially support the family Socially conditioned to equate manhood with wealth and power 💡 This setup creates dependence: Many women end up financially vulnerable after marriage because society never allowed them to build careers or savings. Thus, when a marriage fails,...

  💰 Dowry vs. Alimony in India: Why the Comparison is Misleading—and Dangerous In recent times, a vocal section of Indian men have started comparing alimony to dowry , calling the a “modern scam” where women take what men once did . The argument? That alimony is dowry in reverse . A Man's Rights' Activist's Comment About Ridhanya's Dowry Death But is this just frustration—or is it a deliberate, dangerous misdirection? Let’s break this down. 📌 What’s the Difference Between Dowry and Alimony? 🏷️ Dowry : 💍 Given before or during marriage 🧳 Assets transferred from the bride’s family to the groom’s family 🚫 Illegal under the Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961 🧨 Rooted in patriarchy , often leading to abuse and violence against women 💸 Men and their families are the beneficiaries ⚖️ Alimony : 🔚 Given after divorce 👩‍⚖️ Court-ordered support to the financially weaker spouse (often the wife) ✅ Legal , governed by Indian personal laws and Cr...

Enough of the Crocodile Tears...🐊 Enough of the Hypocrisy...😪 By now, you all would’ve heard about Ridhanya’s s*icide over dowry abuse. 💔 And people are saying, “A divorced daughter is better than a dead daughter.” Indian men are clamoring for justice, slapping hashtags like #JusticeForRidhanya. 🙄 I don’t buy that one bit. Not too long ago, there was an episode on Tamizha Tamizha about divorce. It was gut-wrenching. 💢 The very same men who tore into divorced women on that show—questioning their morals, shaming their choices—are now preaching justice? They’re everywhere. And don’t think women are absent in this cruelty—they’re in the front rows too. 😤 If Ridhanya had divorced, you think this society would’ve let her live in peace? She would’ve been called “vaala vetti” 🗣️ If she dated someone, she'd be labeled shameless 💔 If she dressed up, she’d be scrutinized 🧐 If she chose to live independently, she'd be called every name in the book 🏠💔 If she dared to ...