The Silent Suffering: Marital Rape and Cruelty in Indian Matrimony

 

💔 The Silent Suffering: Marital Rape and Cruelty in Indian Matrimony

🕯️ Ritanya’s Story: A Life Silenced by Brutality

Ritanya’s tragic death is a haunting reminder of the violence that can exist behind closed doors. Her parents revealed that marital rape and dowry harassment were the primary causes of her suffering and eventual death.

 

“He tied her hands, silenced her voice, and used cruel objects on her body,” they said, describing her husband Kavin’s behavior as brutal and inhumane.

Ritanya confided in someone close:

“I feel like my life is leaving me… I fainted… my eyes felt like they were popping out… I can’t bear the pain.”

She pleaded with her husband:

“I am your wife… can’t you be loving towards me? I will gradually be like you prefer… why are you doing all these other things?”

Her words echo the desperation of countless women who suffer in silence.

🚶‍♀️ Hobbling Home: The Aftermath of Violence

When Ritanya returned to her parents’ home, her face was swollen from crying. The next day, she was silent, weary, and hobbling to one side—a physical manifestation of the trauma she endured.

🩸 The Normalization of Pain: A Cultural Tragedy

In many Indian households, pain during the first conjugal experience is normalized—even expected.

Common Misconceptions:

  • “It’s normal for girls to hobble after their first night.”
  • “She’ll get used to it.”
  • “Pain is part of becoming a wife.”

But this normalization hides a darker truth: many women bleed, tear, and suffer silently, hoping things will improve.

What Women Experience:

  • Needle-pricking pain
  • Bleeding and inability to walk
  • Emotional trauma and fear
  • Silence, shame, and isolation

🩺 Midnight Emergencies: Doctors Speak Out

A gynecologist shared her harrowing experience:

“Women are brought to me in the middle of the night, bleeding, needing stitches. Their husbands were too rough. I stitch them up and scold the men before sending them away.”

This is not rare. It’s routine. And it’s unacceptable.

🧠 The Need for Education and Empathy

Many men are never taught how to treat a woman with care during intimacy. There is a gaping void in sexual education, empathy, and respect.

What Needs to Change:

  • Medical counseling for newlyweds
  • Open conversations led by elders and professionals
  • Legal recognition and condemnation of marital rape
  • Empathy education for boys and men from a young age

🚨 Marital Rape Is Real. And It’s a Crime.

Marital rape is not just a private matter—it’s violence. It’s rape. And it must be called out, condemned, and criminalized.

💬 Let’s Talk About It

  • Share stories.
  • Support survivors.
  • Demand justice.
  • Break the silence.

🕊️ For Ritanya, and Every Woman Silenced

This blog is for Ritanya. For every woman who has cried silently in the dark. For every soul who has been told that pain is part of love.

Pain is not love. Violence is not intimacy. Silence is not consent.

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