📖 My Friend, the “Victim Husband" of Laws Favoring Women
So this friend of mine, a tall, fair guy 👨, grew up in a family that bragged non-stop. His parents would always say “engaluku male kids dhan, relatives ellam aasai paduraanga.” Basically, their pride was that they alone had sons while all their siblings had only daughters.
From that, he grew up entitled. Always acting like an “aanalagan” — as if girls were after him. He never had a single girlfriend in school, college, or work though. Still, when it came to marriage, he rejected girl after girl. His dream girl? An architect, raised in a house with grandparents. 🙄
He finally got married. At that time, he wasn’t even earning. Just running an “architecture firm” with his brother and parents’ money. Meanwhile, his wife 👩 was independent, working, and earning steadily.
Within 8 months, she got pregnant 🤰. That’s when the drama started. He suddenly called me and another friend saying there’s a problem. He complained his wife was “acting too much” and staying at her father’s place.
I asked him, “Did you talk to her? Ask what she wants?”
He goes:
👉 “Why talk to her? I spoke to the astrologer. Avan sonna unga 2 jaathagathukum avalo porutham irukku, sandaiye vara koodathu. So she’s just faking to fight.”
That’s when I realized… this guy is inane.
For my friend, letting his wife go to her father's house is the epitome of goodness.
Enraged, his wife’s father confronted him and said:
👉 “Dei niruthu da. En kannu munnadiye en ponna meratura?”
My friend, along with his brother and father, stood up shouting about “respect”: “How can you call your maaplai ‘dei’? How can you disrespect him?” and they walked toward the girl’s father.
The poor girl ran and locked herself in the bathroom 🚪. Her mother had to pull her father into a room and shut the door to stop things from blowing up.
And my friend narrated this to me like it was some kind of achievement. I told him, “Dude, this literally sounds like you tried to hit her father. Police could arrest you.”
But he goes: “But we didn’t hit… we should have. How dare he disrespect me?” 🤦♂️
Then came his endless complaints.
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He cried that the Valaikaappu happened without him.
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He ranted that the Tamil Nadu government admitted his wife for delivery without his signature: “Nowadays boys don’t get any respect. We should change the government!”
Her family even suggested a solution: “Move out, live separately with her. Both families will support you.” I told him it was a good idea. He dismissed it: “Modern nonsense. Family culture should not change.”
He didn’t see the irony — his mother lives with his father, his grandmother lived with her husband, but for his wife? Apparently, she should obey him and his parents no matter what.
Once, her parents came to take her out for lunch because they had cooked mutton 🍖, which she loved. His father insisted: “Ask your husband first.”
My friend said: “No. Stay here. No mutton for you today.”
Then his father added: “Sorry, mukiyam ah ila purusan mukiyama?”
And her mother snapped back: “Soru thaan mukiyam.”
She just pulled her daughter out and left, leaving my friend’s father pushing chairs in anger. 😂
Now, of course, the marriage is over. Divorce case going on. She’s better off without that circus. But my friend and his family? They sit around saying:
👉 “Paatheengala, ponnungaluku evalo support ah laws irukku… nowadays boys don’t have any rights.”
He still rants about "men's rights" - "We didn't even ask her to cook everyday. We didn't force them to give 100 sovereign gold and other stuff. She should be grateful. Women like her are spoiling men's lives.
So, men's rights is basically:- Women obeying men without question.
- Men not taking dowry means women should worship them.
- Not forcing to cook before leaving for work and after returning from work everyday is the greatest kindness that deserves gratitude.
- Letting women visit their parents after marriage means magnanimity and women should be grateful.
- After marriage, women are no longer their parents' daughter but their wives and must do everything they say.
In a nutshell, men's rights = women's slavery.
And that’s the thing. These so-called “innocent men” who cry about being victims in divorce? Most of them are exactly like my friend — entitled, controlling, backed by toxic families, and totally blind to the fact that they brought it all on themselves.
Narrated by: Khaleesi (Karuththu Kannammaa Tamilnadu (male) admin)
Penned by: Rosa (Karuththu Kannammaa Malaysia (female) founder & admin)
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