Kannammaa Writes

The epidemic of Indian men prioritizing their parents (especially their mommies) and treating their wives as second class citizens is a cycle that needs stopping. This is prevalent in Indian societies across the world. Indian men continue being "Mommy's Boy" after marriage. And Indian men's mommies continue to baby their married sons, reducing their wives into maids at the behest of the matriarchs aka slave driver. Although this is a first world problem, the core is the husband giving more importance to his parents and family than his wife. This is common in all families in Indian society. This woman is privileged so she filed for a divorce. But millions of Indian women live in this situation which society deems "normal" and "right. Wives who's needs aren't met by their husbands become obsessed with their sons and raise them as "mommy's little princes," who only listen and fulfill their moms' wishes. Those moms who are deprived...

  In India, the Hindu majority have no qualms in demolishing mosques. In Malaysia, the Muslim majority government machinery has been demolishing Hindu temples since the country's independence from the British in 1957. The peak was in 2007 which triggered a Malaysian Indian Hindu political uprising. I am always accused that I target Hindus while supporting Muslims. Nope. I target the majority oppressing the minorities. And in Malaysia, it's the inverse as far as who are the majority. Indian Muslims are deemed disloyal to India because of their Islamic culture and practices. Malaysian Indian Hindus are deemed disloyal to Malaysia because they practice their own culture and religion instead of assimilating with the majority Malay Muslims - according to former prime minister Mahathir who ironically has Indian roots. Read the history of Indian migration to Malaysia here  because I am talking about how India and Malaysia have things in common when it comes to oppress and make citize...

  South Indian men dislike with Nimisha Sajayan's skin color and weight. Vijay Sethupathi is of the same color and weight and no one bats an eye. Colorism in the South Asian region has gender dynamics to it. Dark skin isn't generally favored in Indian communities anywhere around the world. However, dark skinned women are more out of favor than dark-skinned Indian men. I have three young dark skinned nephews. Their grandmother tells them, "Study, get a good job and earn well. Then you can get beautiful, fair-skinned wives." Can you guess where this mindset stems from? If you guessed Tamil cinema, you're right. I call this: Brahminical-Dravidian Juxtaposed Gender-Based Colorism. The woman is expected to have Indo-Aryan features, i.e., fair skin, adolescent look, white armpits and genitalia, and a slim body. The man, however has the dominant Dravidian bodily feature: dark skin. When a woman with Dravidian features plays a tribal woman role, Dravidian men establish th...

 Priyamanavale is one of the Tamil movies I watched as a child. Of course, back then, I was influenced by it and carried the movie's message within me - many still do, unlike me because there's something called growing up and changing. Now, let me dissect the problematic areas in this landmark scene from Priyamanavale. 1. One year agreement marriage It does sound uncultured. But it's not entirely wrong because marriage per se is a legal agreement between two individuals. There is no guarantee that it will last for a lifetime. Above all, Vijay says that in that one year, if they both like each other, develop an understanding, and feel to spend a lifetime together, they will follow it through. And it does so happen that Vijay and Priya develop feelings for each other, except that Vijay realizes it a wee bit late - after sending Priya off. And Priya unnecessarily torments him instead of acknowledging her love for him. 2. The sanctity of marriage and thali, big-scale weddings, ...

  My Top 5 Impactful Moments in Tamil Movies Tamil movies play a huge role in shaping my worldview on a lot of aspects. In this blog, I will share five moments in Tamil cinema that left a lasting impression in me. 1. Avvai Shanmugi on Brahmin hypocrisy After finding out that Baasha the cook is a Muslim, the "pure vegetarian" Brahmin household gets antsy. Then, Shanmugi pinpoints their cow skin shoemaking family business, and hooks the oppressive castes' hypocrisy.  India is one of the major exporters of beef. The meat businesses are predominantly owned by "upper caste" Hindus, including the "pure vegetarian" Brahmins. Meanwhile, poor, oppressed caste Hindus mobilize the Gau Raksha (Cow Protection) movement to harass and even kill Indian Muslims under suspicion of beef possession, consumption, and cow slaughter, not growing economically themselves or letting others grow. As these Gau Raksha groups live hand to mouth, those oppressive caste beef busin...

  If you watch Minnale from Rajiv Samuel's (Abbas) point of view, Rajesh (Madhavan) is the villain. As a kid, I never saw Minnale from Rajiv Samuel's POV. To me, he was just a rich ladies' man who played gooseberry between Rajesh and Reena. Now though, I understood that Rajiv is the hero I villainized. Let's look at the factors that rendered this change of heart due to the characterization of Rajiv. 1. Rajiv stops his wedding with Reena at the altar as soon as he realized her unhappy countenance. He asks her if she loves him and explains his position that he won't be able to live happily married to her if she isn't wholeheartedly into him. 👌 Among the men who accost women for stopping weddings in the dais, talking about their shattered dreams, Rajiv shines as an example of not being simple-minded. He understands that if Reena isn't entirely consenting to marry him, life won't be good. Marriage, love, and friendship are a two-way street. If one party doe...

  Netflix removed the movie Annapoorani due to backlash from "Hindus" who claimed that it hurt "Hindu sentiments" for portraying a "Hindu woman" eating meat and inter-religious romance = "love jihad." I watched Annapoorani and I didn't like the movie per se because of its tenuous and haphazard storyline. Now, although I'm a self-proclaimed atheist, my Hindu family members eat meat - from chicken to monitor lizard meat. Vegetarian offerings to Gods, and deceased family members are recent and due to BRAHMINISM, not HINDUISM. When I was a kid, my family used to offer meat, liquor, and cigars to our "clan gods" and deceased family members and they are Hindus then and now.  Brahminism brainwashing that meat is lowly and sacrilegious has poisoned the Malaysian Hindu community as well. In a bid to disassociate themselves from the Brahmin-induced idea that eating meat is reprehensible, the Hindus in Malaysia were made to believe that t...