Kannammaa Writes

  This meme by Scoop Whoop triggered a lot of Indian men. They are saying that a woman should not be able to recant her consent once the clothes are off and the two people are lying on the bed.    Many of the men also say that when women date men, have consensual sex under the promise of marriage from the men and he says “No” to marriage after all that and then gets jailed for saying “No.” Why the no from the men isn’t honoured they ask.   It’s due to the patriarchy that men like these guys espouse. Why is marriage promised by Indian men to have sex with the women they date? Do Indians saying that women should save their virginity for their husbands ring a bell? You want to f*ck but your girl coyly says, “Chi, all these after marriage only.” To convince her, you promise marriage. So, when you backtrack, you are entrapped by law that adheres to #mairuculture.   Indian courts use cultural norms when forming laws and judgment – women who stop their husbands from lo...

I happened to watch Theeya Velai Seiyyanum Kumar-u on Friday for the first time. From Minnale to Ghajinikanth, Tamil movies are portraying women as incredibly stupid and men as masters of prevarications. I don’t understand why Tamil movies are so keen on making men with desirable qualities villainous while men who cheat women, think women are stupid, and have no qualms to indulge in deception, heroic. By now, I think it’s subliminal for Tamil men. One tried the same dishonest technique at me and when I exposed him, Tamil men began to support him, even accused me of lying. I just hate to be thought of as stupid and easily manipulated as a woman. That was why I exposed him. I suppose Tamil men want women to be stupid, forgiving, and then accepting liars, Janus-faced douches, and impostors like the heroines of Minnale, Remo, Theeya Velai Seiyyanum Kumar-u etc. The shit that is fed to us will need decades of undoing. I have never seen a Tamil movie depicting women as intelligent. Women in ...

Credit: Wikipedia Commons After having my sister, Sudha, my mom, Lakshmi, was hoping for a boy... because only boys look after their aged parents, right? Because only boys light their parents’ funeral pyres, right? Because you can have many daughters but all of them don’t equal a son, right? My mom’s aunt insisted that she have a boy and after 9 years of my sister’s birth and I was conceived. My stepmother, Ramani wasn’t happy to learn about the pregnancy and declared loudly if I was ever to be born, she wouldn’t lend a hand to take care of me. My dad, Krishna wouldn’t hear any of my stepmother’s harangue and said my birth is final, whether she liked it or not. My mom was my dad’s second wife. My stepmother is my mom’s eldest sister, and my dad was their maternal uncle. I have 5 half-siblings, Nisha, Tara, Premi, Banu, and Babu. It is a conundrum. Indeed. Truth is stranger than fiction. High hopes ran that I would have dangly genitals. Saffron and milk were consumed together...

  So, my  IG DM  was filled about this Instagram page called  Patriarchal Phenomenon . The page is anti-feminism and advocates for women to be feminine, only marry older men, and women to only be housewives and mothers and totally dependent on their husbands. Now, meet Therese Margareth Saranza (pic, above) She’s my colleague from The Philippines. She has a medical condition called  Atlantoaxial Instability . Her condition used to give her excruciating headaches and she would often bang her head on the walls due to the pain. The condition progressed to  quadriplegia . This means she can’t move anything from the neck down like the late  Christopher Reeve . She can’t breathe on her own. She is bedridden and completely dependent on her caretakers. Christopher Reeve Therese is a graduate in BSc Psychology, cum laude at that. She’s been working for nearly a decade now from her bed, at her home. She uses voice recognition software to work and is a star emplo...

  “Social equality is a state of affairs in which all people within a specific society have equal rights, liberties, and status, possibly including civil rights, freedom of speech, property rights, and equal access to certain social goods and social services. Social equality requires the absence of legally enforced social class or caste boundaries and the absence of discrimination motivated by an inalienable part of a person's identity.” Read the above 10 times. Feminism and social equality are not your bequeathed ancestral property for you to redefine. So many culture vultures are redefining feminism. Apparently, feminism isn’t about women doing everything men do. Also, it’s apparently not about women dressing “vulgarly.” In other words, it’s “Men will decide what women should do and can do. Women should wear the dresses men approve.” It’s just soft re-establishing of patriarchy, these redefinitions. Everything, including drinking, clubbing, wearing what we like/comforta...

I think Indian men are the worst when it comes to intimacy. I have been reading numerous confessions where married Indian women felt that sex feels like rape every night for them. No care. No love. No affection. Robotic and rigid. These types of Indian men watch porn and are only keen on penetrative sex. Cuddling with their wives is something emasculating for them. Coz men are not supposed to be gentle and tender! That is what this patriarchal system teaches men. Women, on the other hand, yearn for love and care before both leads to sex. Indian men translate this as ‘women being needy, clingy, and slutty.’ Coz we have taught men that women who know about sex and what they want in sex are bad women. Hear out your wives and respond positively, dear Indian men If you watched The Great Indian Kitchen and Vallamai Tharayo, you’d know. When women say that they’d like some foreplay, sexy talks, teasing, flirting, and calling each other endearing names to their husbands, the latter is ...

  I am a self-proclaimed feminist. I actively speak feminism on Instagram under the tutelage of my Facebook page, Karutthu Kannamamaa which is also managed by co-admins who are also my friends. I recently learned that my pictures are on lewd Tamil pages, captioned “Sexy Feminist Bitch waiting for customers.” LOL😂😂😂. This is the only way right-wing people can extend counter-narratives. It is also the easiest way to shut a woman up, leveraging age-old patriarchy that fixes a woman’s dignity and honor on her body. But I won't shut up.😈😈😈💅💅💅  In the initial days of Karutthu Kannammaa, Malaysian Indian men issued rape and murder threats against the admins, my ex-schoolmate, and me😄😄😄. My friend and I persisted and today, the page is famous in India and it is the Indian men’s turn to slut-shame us💤💤💤. I have received numerous slut-shaming texts in my Instagram DM.  If we want to break patriarchy effectively, we must first break the patriarchy within us. I...